December 8th, 2014
Some men know the problem very well. They are nice guys and that’s, weird enough, not a good thing. However hard they try to attract a girl’s attention, they always end up in the friend zone. Why? It’s probably their never ending smile.
In the many internet discussions about ‘friendzoning’ a few explanations keep turning up. One important problem with Mr. Nice Guy seems to be his lack of personality. If he always just acts nice, there’s not much left to fall for.
What the nice guy also seems to lack is decisiveness. He acts nice and builds up a friendship, but secretly has another agenda: to get the girl into his bed. That’s not a steady plan. As Quora member Gwen Sawchuk puts it: don’t try to sneak around the back door. Be a man and give it your best shot.
But do girls really want to end up with a bad boy? No, agrees almost everyone.
Just look at popular movieplots, like Grease, says Quora member and marketeer Jonathan Brill. Danny starts as a cocky macho and ends up as someone that could become a responsible husband.
And when exactly do the girls want this personality change? Not too fast, warns Wiki-answers: ‘A girl wants a guy to show his emotions, but she definitely wants to work for it.’
And the worst emotion you can show when meeting a girl is, be prepared: happiness. Two researchers of the University of British Columbia found out that women, other than men, actually find members of the opposite sex less attractive when they smile than when they look proud or even ashamed.
Tracy, J., & Beall, A. (2011). Happy guys finish last: The impact of emotion expressions on sexual attraction. Emotion, 11 (6), 1379-1387 DOI: 10.1037/a0022902